What is normal?

I do not think it means what you think it means, pt 2

What is normal? Ask 100 people, get 100 answers. The truth is, there is no such thing as “normal,” and that fact becomes more evident each and every day. We constantly hear about “normalizing” disabilities, especially for children, by making them more visible, more acceptable, and more a part of […]

What is brave?

I do not think it means what you think it means, pt 1

Let’s talk about this word “brave.” It gets used a lot, and very rarely in the correct context. From Webster: Bold; courageous; daring; intrepid; – opposed to cowardly; as, a brave man; a brave act. From Dictionary.com: Possessing or exhibiting courage or courageous endurance. From Oxford Dictionaries: People who are […]

Melissa Benoist as Supergirl

This Super geek isn’t down with Supergirl

I love Superman. My love affair with the superhero began in 1993, with the Dean Cain/Teri Hatcher vehicle, Lois & Clark: The New Adventures of Superman. Look at him. Can you blame me? My adolescent heart was smitten. This was probably the spark that ignited my nerdy fire. I learned […]

Chill out. It's just a cup.

O, Come All Ye Ignorant

Every year at this time, it is inevitable that someone (usually multiple someones) will say something stupid in the name of their faith, without actually knowing what the hell they’re talking about. 2015 brought us the sagas of the Starbucks cup, and the Simon Malls glacier. Two basically innocent incidents […]

Words to avoid using when dealing with people with disabilities

It’s all about the wordplay

Labels are hard. Consider racial labels. Have you ever met a black person who is actually black? I’m white, but I’m not white. I’m an interesting combination of golds and pinks. Although after a long winter, I’m closer to white than not. Or, as has come to light in recent […]

Silhouette, group of happy children playing on meadow, sunset, summertime

It starts with the kids

How do you teach your kids to interact with, talk to, and talk about people with disabilities? Growing up, I heard a lot of kids ask their parents what was wrong with me, only to hear the parent respond “She’s sick.” I don’t overhear these exchanges nearly as much anymore. […]

I don't think I'd make a very inspiring disabled person. - Cameron Tucker, Modern Family

The GoFundMe Mentality

This is one of those posts that’s going to reaffirm some people’s opinion of me as “bitter”. I’m okay with that, because I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t at least a tinge of bitterness behind this writing. Yesterday, I saw on the news a story of an “inspiring” […]

Little girl as an adult in a Nationwide commercial

What is it supposed to look like?

Okay, vulnerable post time. Fair warning: This could get messy. I don’t know if it’s because of the way I act, or the way I look, or the fact that I simply got good genes, but most people don’t believe I’m 34. I have genuinely, seriously contemplated lying about my […]


I like big books and I cannot lie

This week marks what I consider to be one of the most important issues in our country. Yep, it’s Banned Books Week. It astounds me that in 2015, this still needs to be a thing. It disappoints me that there are people who are willing to literally rip books from […]

Ashley Madison header

I’m trying to care

I keep trying to dredge up sympathy for people like the Duggars, or the hacked Ashley Madison accounts, or the people who committed suicide because their Ashley Madison accounts were hacked. Seriously, I’m trying. But, a wicked part of me is laughing maniacally. (Except about the suicides. Even I’m not […]