Stupid People

What is normal?

I do not think it means what you think it means, pt 2

What is normal? Ask 100 people, get 100 answers. The truth is, there is no such thing as “normal,” and that fact becomes more evident each and every day. We constantly hear about “normalizing” disabilities, especially for children, by making them more visible, more acceptable, and more a part of […]

Chill out. It's just a cup.

O, Come All Ye Ignorant

Every year at this time, it is inevitable that someone (usually multiple someones) will say something stupid in the name of their faith, without actually knowing what the hell they’re talking about. 2015 brought us the sagas of the Starbucks cup, and the Simon Malls glacier. Two basically innocent incidents […]

Words to avoid using when dealing with people with disabilities

It’s all about the wordplay

Labels are hard. Consider racial labels. Have you ever met a black person who is actually black? I’m white, but I’m not white. I’m an interesting combination of golds and pinks. Although after a long winter, I’m closer to white than not. Or, as has come to light in recent […]


I like big books and I cannot lie

This week marks what I consider to be one of the most important issues in our country. Yep, it’s Banned Books Week. It astounds me that in 2015, this still needs to be a thing. It disappoints me that there are people who are willing to literally rip books from […]

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I’m trying to care

I keep trying to dredge up sympathy for people like the Duggars, or the hacked Ashley Madison accounts, or the people who committed suicide because their Ashley Madison accounts were hacked. Seriously, I’m trying. But, a wicked part of me is laughing maniacally. (Except about the suicides. Even I’m not […]

Just another day at the SSA office in Charlotte, NC.

Your tax dollars at work

I’m not one of those people who are proud to be collecting government benefits. It is not something I talk about much, but I do it because it is a necessary evil in my life. Realistically, my employment options are limited due to my osteogenesis imperfecta and using a wheelchair, […]

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About that time…I shut down a skating rink

When I was 8 years old, I was involved in that girlhood tradition known as the Girl Scouts. To be specific, I was a Brownie – and only a Brownie – throughout my GS career. Scouting wasn’t really my thing. Even though I wasn’t going to continue on to the […]

I'd rather be someone's shot of whiskey than everyone's cup of tea.

Consider Me Bittersweet 1

Waaaay back in 2004, I had an incredible opportunity to write a monthly column for my local newspaper. I was just out of college, and retained aspirations of being Lois Lane. (Love me some Clark Kent.) The reason I applied in the first place was because it was an opportunity […]

Wow, you're sure lucky you don't have to walk up all these stairs.

Don’t Say These Things

Being a wheelchair user, I have been on the receiving end of some seriously stupid statements from the bipedal. So, allow me to educate you on those utterances that will give you a permanent case of foot-in-mouth disease. That can be fatal, you know. You’re really good at driving that […]

The Lies We Tell Ourselves

The Lies We Tell Ourselves 1

We, as a species, lie to ourselves on a regular basis, for any number of reasons. I don’t want to focus on the myriad reasons, but rather on one lie that a more specific “we” – this “we” meaning wheelchair users – perpetuate. Recently, on social media and its ilk, […]